Loving Like You Mean It: Use the Power of Emotional Mindfulness to Transform Your Relationships

A 2019 Nautilus Silver Book Award Winner

You can't fix what you don't see. But with awareness and the right tools, real change can and does happen.

No matter how hard we try, many of us struggle to make love work with our partners. The problem, as clinical psychologist Dr. Ron Frederick explains, is that our brains are running on outdated software. Without us knowing it, our early relationship programming causes us to fear being more emotionally present and authentic with our partners--precisely what's needed to build loving connections. But we don't have to remain prisoners to our past.

Grounded in cutting-edge neuroscience and attachment theory, Loving Like You Mean It shares a proven four-step approach to use emotional mindfulness to break free from old habits, befriend your emotional experience, and develop new ways of relating. The capacity for deep, loving connections is inside all of us, waiting to come out. By practicing the science behind loving like you mean it, your relationships can be fuller and richer than you ever imagined.

Ronald J. Frederick, PhD, co-founded the Center for Courageous Living in Beverly Hills, California, and is a senior faculty member of the Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Institute. For over twenty years, he has provided emotion-centered, experiential therapy to individuals and couples and actively trains other psychotherapists. Frederick is the author of the bestselling book Living Like You Mean It and a recipient of the American Psychological Association's Malyon-Smith Scholarship Award for his research on the fear of intimacy. He lectures and teaches workshops around the world.