{"product_id":"relationsick-why-putting-yourself-last-is-destroying-your-health-and-how-to-heal-9781637749548","title":"Relationsick: Why Putting Yourself Last Is Destroying Your Health--And How to Heal","description":"\u003cb\u003eThe body wants to heal itself. By treating your relational trauma and healing power imbalances in your relationships, you can create the conditions it needs to begin.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eMost people know that controlling relationships can lead to mental health issues. But few people understand that our bodies translate relational trauma into physical, chronic, and even terminal illnesses--autoimmune disorders, cancer, chronic pain, and more. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Building on the Internal Family Systems and Relational Life Therapy models, \u003ci\u003eRelationsick\u003c\/i\u003e is a trauma-informed recovery plan that will help you rebalance relationships where you give too much and receive too little or where someone is abusing their power--at your body's expense. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003ci\u003eRelationsick\u003c\/i\u003e will help you break free from the fawning behaviors that keep you stuck in toxic relational dynamics. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience, Drs. Lissa Rankin and Jeffrey Rediger place recovery firmly in your hands through grounded, ethical, trauma-informed, evidence-based medical advice. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e Regulate your nervous system, protect your heart with good boundaries, and heal your body by learning to: \u003cbr\u003e \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eSpot the red flags of narcissism--as well as the green flags of healthy, responsible, health-inducing relationships\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eUnderstand fawning, over-functioning, and enabling behaviors in a trauma-informed way--so you can take charge of your health\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eDeprogram unhealthy conditioning and set patterns that will help your nervous system begin the process of deeper healing\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eGet to know the parts of you that cause you to give too much and keep you stuck in power imbalances that can make you sick\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eCommunicate clear and assertive boundaries, navigate existing relationships with narcissists, and decide if a no-contact approach is right for you\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eShow up for yourself and your other relationships, so you can nurture safe, transparent, and loving connections in your life\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e With practical self-help tools including quizzes for self-assessment, this radical new approach to healing from physical illness and unhealthy relationships makes it clear that your body has the power to improve or even reverse trauma-inflicted illness. All you have to do is help it do so.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Lissa Rankin,Jeffrey Rediger\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Benbella Books\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 10\/06\/2026\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 400\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBinding Type:\u003c\/b\u003e Hardcover\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 1.25lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 9.10h x 6.00w x 1.20d\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN:\u003c\/b\u003e 9781637749548\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eLissa Rankin, MD\u003c\/b\u003e, is an OB\/GYN physician and author of 8 books, including the \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestseller \u003ci\u003eMind Over Medicine\u003c\/i\u003e. She is the founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute and the health equity nonprofit Heal at Last, and an artist who researches radical remission, trauma-informed medicine, and the relational implications for medical conditions, including the effects of loneliness, narcissism, and coercive control on health. She teaches online and in-person classes in the realm of relationships, IFS, and health, as well as creative writing for therapeutic purposes. She has co-taught many classes with IFS founder Dick Schwartz and is an educator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), with a specialty in IFS and medical conditions. She also mentors doctors, therapists, and entrepreneurs to support their visionary work. Her TEDx talks have been viewed over 6 million times, and she has starred in two National Public Television specials. Lissa lives in West Sonoma County with her partner, now that her daughter has gone off to New York for art school. She thrives on daily hikes in nature, making art, dancing, singing, writing, gardening, upcycling clothing, DJing music whenever she can, and healthy gourmet cooking. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003eJeffrey Rediger MD, MDiv, \u003c\/b\u003eis an author, a licensed physician and psychiatrist, and on the faculty of Harvard Medical School. He was the medical director of McLean SouthEast and Community Affairs at McLean Hospital in Boston for 22 years, and concurrently for many years also the chief of behavioral medicine at Good Samaritan Medical Center. In addition to his medical and psychiatric training, he has a master's of divinity in theology and philosophy of science from Princeton Theological Seminary. His investigations into remarkable recoveries from incurable or fatal illnesses have been featured on \u003ci\u003eThe Oprah Winfrey Show\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eThe Dr. Oz Show\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eAnderson Cooper 360\u003c\/i\u003e, among others. He has been nominated for the National Bravewell Leadership Award and has received many awards for leadership and patient care. His bestselling book, \u003ci\u003eCured: Strengthen Your Immune System and Heal Your Life\u003c\/i\u003e, has been published in 22 languages so far and is available at both local bookstores and online.\u003cbr\u003e","brand":"booksdeli.com","offers":[{"title":"Lissa Rankin \/ Hardcover \/ English","offer_id":49001614475421,"sku":"9781637749548","price":35.94,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0619\/5648\/9373\/files\/img_a9f1981f-caab-438d-b18f-142784162609.jpg?v=1791982156","url":"https:\/\/booksdeli.com\/products\/relationsick-why-putting-yourself-last-is-destroying-your-health-and-how-to-heal-9781637749548","provider":"booksdeli.com","version":"1.0","type":"link"}