{"product_id":"this-is-how-your-marriage-ends-9780063072268","title":"This Is How Your Marriage Ends","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eA thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eGood people can be bad at relationships.\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to \"journal his feelings,\" Matthew Fray started a blog. He needed to figure out how his ex-wife went from the eighteen-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole and left him. As he pieced together the story of his marriage and its end, Matthew began to realize a hard truth: even though he was a decent guy, he was a bad husband. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e As he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened. Matthew started to gain a following. In January 2016 a post he wrote--\"She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink\"--went viral and was read over four million times.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFiltered through the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years of marriage counseling, \u003ci\u003eThis Is How Your Marriage Ends\u003c\/i\u003e exposes the root problem of so many toxic relationships that go wrong. We simply haven't been taught any of the necessary skills for developing emotional intelligence, Matthew explains. In fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that causes us to alienate our partners and foment mistrust.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWith the humorous, entertaining, and counterintuitive approach of \u003ci\u003eThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, \u003c\/i\u003e and the practical insights of \u003ci\u003eThe 5 Love Languages, This is How Your Marriage Ends \u003c\/i\u003eprovides powerful relationship advice to help readers identify relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives, and offers solutions to break free from the cycles of dysfunction and destruction. It is must-read for every partner no matter what stage-beginning, middle, or even end--of your relationship.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis brutally honest and unflinching guide reveals the invisible patterns that destroy relationships: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eThe 'Good Guy' Paradox: \u003c\/b\u003e Why a man who considers himself a decent person can still be a bad husband, and how a simple chore like leaving a dish by the sink can signal a massive betrayal of trust.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eCommunication Breakdown: \u003c\/b\u003e How to stop the cycle of invalidation--the #1 marriage killer--where conversations about small things become painful betrayals that erode safety and trust.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eUnseen Emotional Labor: \u003c\/b\u003e The truth about the 'invisible work' in a partnership and why your wife doesn't want to be your mother, your manager, or the one who always has to ask.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eActionable Relationship Skills: \u003c\/b\u003e Practical, counterintuitive skills to break free from destructive cycles, learn to truly listen, and show up as the partner your family deserves.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAuthor:\u003c\/b\u003e Matthew Fray\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e HarperOne\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublished:\u003c\/b\u003e 04\/18\/2023\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePages:\u003c\/b\u003e 304\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBinding Type:\u003c\/b\u003e Paperback\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWeight:\u003c\/b\u003e 0.49lbs\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSize:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.01h x 5.32w x 0.72d\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN:\u003c\/b\u003e 9780063072268\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eFray, Matthew:\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e - \u003cp\u003eMATTHEW FRAY is a relationship coach, writer, and \"the man who coaches husbands on how to avoid divorce\" (\u003cem\u003eNew York Times).\u003c\/em\u003e His writing has been featured in \u003cem\u003eHuffPost\u003c\/em\u003e, \u003cem\u003eThe Sunday Times\u003c\/em\u003e, the \u003cem\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/em\u003e, and many more. His blog \u003cem\u003eMust Be This Tall To Ride \u003c\/em\u003ehas a dedicated following and has reached millions of readers.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"booksdeli.com","offers":[{"title":"Matthew Fray \/ Paperback \/ English","offer_id":48397202817181,"sku":"9780063072268","price":22.78,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0619\/5648\/9373\/files\/img_8f4e0202-d8cd-44e6-87e7-b717b32e5420.jpg?v=1781076037","url":"https:\/\/booksdeli.com\/products\/this-is-how-your-marriage-ends-9780063072268","provider":"booksdeli.com","version":"1.0","type":"link"}