To Be Loved: A Memoir: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation

Rarely does a trauma therapist disclose their own trauma history . . . yet it's the untold, brutally honest, incredibly heartbreaking story of Dr. Frank Anderson that made him the world-renowned trauma expert he is today.

Known for his magnetic and radiant personality, Frank spends his time training thousands of clinicians around the world on how to help clients with complex trauma make sense of their suffering. But underneath this charismatic exterior are his dark family secrets, including the marks of child abuse from his father and the invisible scars of shame.

His colleagues and fellow therapists would never know this . . . until now.

In To Be Loved, Frank shares his confusing experience of growing up an outsider in a typical midwestern Italian American home that was at one turn fiercely loving but at the same time unaccepting, abusive, and rife with secrets.

After enduring six years of therapy as a child in the 1970s, he was programmed to be something that he wasn't for decades, and he became driven to create the perfect life--complete with a family, a successful career, and a house with a white picket fence in the suburbs--until it all fell apart.

It was only then that he realized resilience, forgiveness, and facing his trauma were the keys to living an authentic life--and finally knowing what it feels like to be loved.

Frank Anderson, MD, is a world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. He is the acclaimed author of Transcending Trauma and coauthor of Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual. As a global speaker on the treatment of trauma and dissociation, he is passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy. Dr. Anderson believes that traumatic events can have a lasting effect on the well-being and life of an individual and that addressing these events will help lead people down a pathway of healing and forgiveness.

Dr. Anderson is the cofounder of The Trauma Institute and Trauma Informed Media, organizations that promote trauma awareness, education, integration, and healing. He is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute under Richard Schwartz and has a long affiliation with the New York Times bestselling author of The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel van der Kolk, MD, and the Trauma Research Institute. Dr. Anderson has also worked with professional dancer and influencer, Julianne Hough, to help her develop a trauma-informed dance component to her KINGRY dance program. Dr. Anderson is dedicated to helping others heal trauma and to bring more love, compassion, and unity to the world. He has been featured in outlets like PIX11 and KTLA. To learn more about Dr. Frank Anderson, visit frankandersonmd.com and on Instagram at @frank_andersonmd.