Do as I Say, Not Who I Did: Honest Advice on Hookups and Relationships in College

Consent is essential--that's Sex 101. And if you ask Ali Drucker, young women also deserve more--like time to explore what turns them on, space to voice their needs, self-compassion after a hookup goes sideways, and yes (obviously): pleasure!

It's hard to overstate how much we put pressure on early sexual encounters--and how little real advice is out there. How do I deal when I keep running into my one-night stand? How can I tell if I'm too drunk to have sex? How do I say stop when I'm not really into it? Why do I keep getting all these UTIs?

And most of all: Why is so much of sex ed focused on what could go wrong instead of what actually feels good? In this unflinchingly honest guide to hookups and relationships in the twenty-first century, Ali Drucker answers these questions and more--with "been there, done that" confessional advice, plus input from experts on sexuality and from students in college today.

If you missed out on shame-free, affirmative sex education . . . if you're nervous about having sex . . . if you're just discovering what you want (and how to ask for it)--this book is for you.

Author: Ali Drucker
Publisher: Experiment
Published: 04/12/2022
Pages: 272
Binding Type: Paperback
Weight: 0.60lbs
Size: 7.90h x 5.50w x 0.80d
ISBN: 9781615197965

About the Author
Drucker, Ali: - Ali Drucker has been writing about sexual health and relationships since 2014, when her first byline appeared in The New York Times. Since graduating from Skidmore College, she has written for publications including New York Magazine, Teen Vogue, Refinery 29, Salon.com, and ELLE.com. Drucker was senior sex & relationships editor for Maxim and then held the same role at Cosmo. She continues to write about issues ranging from the representation of sex in the media to mental health for publications including HuffPost, New York Magazine, and more. Drucker has served as an expert consultant for companies including USA Today and Bumble, and she's been a guest speaker at creative writing courses at The New School and The Wing, instructing others on how to channel their relationships and experiences into impactful personal essays editors will want to buy. Although she didn't "write the book" on sex, Drucker did edit the encyclopedia of sex; Cosmo's Sexopedia is a massive online database of sex terms, all with shame-free definitions, pop culture examples, and helpful illustrations. For her work on the project, Drucker was named a finalist for a Hearst Editorial Excellence Award in 2017. Drucker currently lives in Los Angeles with her fiancé, comedy writer Jesse McLaren.